Saturday, December 21, 2013


It's officially Winter...
shortest day of the year....
Sunset, December 21st, 3:50 pm

Saturday, December 14, 2013


Bernice just emailed this wonderful photo + Thanksgiving blessing. we're all on the same wave-length in our memories of a wonderful husband, father, grandfather, uncle; he will never be forgotten. It is hard to believe it's been three years...

Bob's third Yahrzeit - hard to believe!!!  Bob wrote this quite a few years ago and he read it at Thanksgiving dinners. I have taken over and have read it these past few years. I thought you might like to have it -it is his voice again. When I read it in New Orleans, everyone clapped. It is typical Robert Sandler.

Friday, December 13, 2013


I found a letter from Roby dated December 23, 1999, typed, two pages, single spaced.  In it he answers some of my questions about the Sandler family, the photograph album at Boby's house and, he lectured me regarding his use of email. I laughed out loud when I read it. I had forgotten about that part.

Dear Carol,

I am happy to read that you found my article on the Ten Commandments interesting. You asked to see the one about "Why Are There Two Versions of the Creation in Genesis?" Here it is.

I too think it is easier to send e-mail letters than writing them in longhand, or even typing them. (At the moment, I'm using a word processor, which I think is more user-friendly but, if sent via U.S. mail, is of course slower.) I am sending this via U.S. mail only because it is simpler  to send multi-page articles with clippings, etc. through the mail than it is to work them through the scanner and computer one page at a time and then print them out - one page at a time.

...from your last two e-mails, one to Bernice and one to me: "I will answer Bob's letter via snail mail since it appears he does not look at e-mail." Excuse me ????? "It is easier for me to e-mail...I wish you would e-mail me as well."  Excuse me?????  (note: yes he did type 5 question marks!)

Well...enough of that.

I would like to explore with you some of the history of the album and pictures that you keep referring to, that you used to see at Bobie and Zaidy's house on Friday nights. Some background and context: I was taking pictures of your mother and Ruthie, and of other people and places, with a little brownie camera in the 30's and early 40's. In Feb. 1943 I went into the army. I took pictures during that period. Ina matter of weeks after I was discharged, in Dec. 1946, I enrolled as a freshman at Ohio University. I kept adding pictures in an album. Somewhere along the line, I distinctly remember an album with black pages; I remember writing with white ink under the pictures. In the spring of 1949, after graduating in February, 1949, I came home for a few months. At that time, Bobie and Zaidy moved from Harlem Street to Roxbury. I did not move with them to Roxbury. I rented a room at 215 Commonwealth Ave. I moved with whatever few things I had, with emphasis on "few," which must have included whatever pictures I had. I remember that Zaidy wanted to move with as little as possible.

In August, 1949, I got married. We went right out to Ohio U., where I had been offered an assistantship for an M.A. I finished My M.A. in August, 1950, and we went right up to Cleveland, without coming back east. You were born on September 17, 1950. I did two years of Doctorate work at Western Reserve. Ellen was born in 1952. We returned to Boston in 1953. Jeff was born in 1954. We had a small apartment on Kilsythe Road in Brookline. (wow, I did not remember that!) I started to teach at Northeastern in the Fall of 1953. At that time, Bobie and Zaidy were living in the Franklin Field apartments. I do not know exactly when they moved out of Roxbury. You and your mother were living on American Legion Highway.

Now, you remember the Friday evenings at Bobie's when you were a little girl. * We moved from Brookline to Florida in July, 1956, a few months before your sixth birthday, taking whatever we had with us. As for "a stack of family pictures" that you saw here, in 1990, that you remember seeing in Bobie's album when you were a little...except for the two family pictures and two or three others, that's a mystery to me. I don't know anything about a "stack of family photos in a large manila envelope."

The picture of Bobie with the lute, and bangs, her elbow on a stone, was never in my album. I don't know when Bobie gave it to me, but it was never "just another picture for the album. The old but beautiful picture of Bobie with her Aunt Elizabeth was never in my album. The picture of Zaidy in his army uniform was never in my album. I had those pictures in separate small envelopes. I have a vague recollection that Zaidy's army picture, torn and cracked, was in the album at Bobie's. I must have have asked for it. I later had it professionally restored. I have another vague recollection that the picture of our maternal grandfather was also in that album. The album at Bobie's, as I recall, was grey, it had the rectangular shape of a bookkeeping ledger. I just cannot recall whether I ever had that picture of Bobie's father. Ruthie may have had it; I just am not sure. I hope that picture still exists. He had four brothers in the Greater Boston area. They might have had pictures. Descendants of those brothers are...all over the place, Iguess. He lso had five or six other brothers and one sister who never came to America.

You know...memory can play tricks on on. In the mind, memory can somehow be changed by strong desire. Mark Twain, in his later years, once said, "the older I get, the more I can remember things...whether they happened or not."

Does your mother have any pictures? Does Ken have any pictures? Does Barbara (Josephs) Cavalear have any pictures? Who knows, maybe Barry salvaged some pictures during those tumultuous years.

I hope to get an e-mail out to you in the next few days, including a couple of pictures.

Love, Roby

P.S. Weren't you 12 when Bobie died?

* see my first blog post, 2009

Saturday, December 7, 2013


My photograph of Beacon street in Winter, taken from my window was chosen for the Artists Beyond Challenges 2014 Calendar published by the Massachusetts  Rehabilitation Commission which distributes it state-wide. Guess which month this is ?

This is a bit of an example of 'Relentless Grey" except the snow actually brightens things up !

This version is from my Iphoto files. The one at the top is scanned in from the calendar.

Thursday, December 5, 2013


My friend Bonnie came over one of the nights and came bearing gifts. She also came with three different kind of latkes, applesauce, banana bread and pumpkin pie ! It's a holiday ! We had a lot of fun, we sang songs, we listened to Adam Sandler sing his Hannukka song and laughed our heads off.

Missing Roby, I know Chanukah was one of his favorite holidays. Did he make latkes too ?

Pitchers and Catchers report to Spring Training on February 15th. We are rapidly approaching the shortest day of the year, December 20th. After that, the days get longer. I need these games to deal with what passes for light around here in this season. Relentless grey...For those of us addicted to baseball, listen up. Jared Saltamacchia will NOT be returning to the Red Sox - he's going to the Marlins instead...hmm. Also, Jacoby Ellsbury will NOT be returning to the Red Sox. This is really bad + quite frankly, the ultimate betrayal! Think Johnny Damon, another turncoat !  He  is  going to  the Yankees - 7 year, $153 million contract. Sox fans will be merciless when he takes the field next season....

NEWSFLASH:  2:40 pm

Cano reportedly agrees to deal with Mariners

Sides said to be in accord on 10 year $240 million contract; 

“Couldn’t be happier for him and for us," Pedroia wrote in a text. "We don’t have to face him 19 times a year.“


Ken emailed me this information regarding his father, Hy Josephs.

Hyman David Josephs    
2/26/17  - 9/23/77
father - Morris Josephs/ 1888 - 1963
mother - Lena Dwatz Josephs /1893 - 1959
[aka  - Josephvovitz]
Poali Zader Cemetery
plot: section 4
grave 20.
sorry... no pictures  


I woke up to this email from Ken today. I don't get it. 
Along with my ex-brother, I have an ex-cousin.

  • ken
  • Dec 4 at 7:57 PM
  • carol miller
yr right. yr so stressed & I should behave.

u have an x brother.

until she was dying & you made it about u/ u had an x mother.

add an x cousin &

I wish u well.

Tuesday, November 26, 2013


(RNS) It last happened in 1888 and, according to one calculation, won’t happen again for another 77,798 years: the convergence of Thanksgiving and Hanukkah.
This year, Nov. 28 is Thanksgiving and the first full day of the eight-day Jewish festival of lights, which begins at sundown the previous night.
For many Jewish Americans, this is no trivial convergence, but a once-in-an-eternity opportunity to simultaneously celebrate two favorite holidays, one quintessentially American, the other quintessentially Jewish.

Saturday, November 23, 2013


I am bleary-eyed from watching all the coverage on TV yesterday, commemorating the assassination of JFK in Dallas. Today on CSPAN, Book TV is continuing the coverage all weekend. I am riveted to the set. It's like re-living that part of my youth since I remember watching it Live on TV when I was 13 years old. Unlike everybody else in the country who seem to remember exactly where they were the day he was shot, I don't. I keep watching the images hoping to jog my memory. I know it happened between 1:30 + 2:00 pm. I have a vague recollection they told us in school. But I don't have any memories of watching TV with Shirley. I watched the funeral but I don't remember watching it with her. I have a lot of memories but none of this event -

The memorials in Dallas and Boston were televised. Boston had coverage all day long. I found myself in tears many times. I don't remember crying at the time. So I cried yesterday. Grief. Grief for him, his family, those kids, grief for shirley, grief for the country......

Listening to him give speeches, I was struck by the idealism and the hope. I can't remember any other president speak about the importance of the Arts and not just 'commercialism.' What a different direction the country has gone. Completely opposite of his ideas. Today, it's all about 'commercialism' aka Corporate America. Money for the Arts gets cut, cut, cut. A different world.

I just remembered Roby was inspired by him. I heard he was looking into the possibility of going into the Peace Corps. Shirley must have told me. I heard they were going to send him to Calcutta and I know he did not go there. Does anyone remember anything about that ?


It's quite extraordinary seeing coverage from 1963 - the pre-cell phone, pre-digital, pay phone low-tech. way of reporting the story - we all heard and saw the story delivered by the best newsman of the day, Walter Cronkite. He had the most gravitas - but even he was overcome with grief; he had to take off his glasses and wipe away tears while reporting the story.....


Monday, November 11, 2013



1944, WWII

1945:WWII, Rheurdt, Germany

Saturday, November 2, 2013


Red Sox fans converge on city for World Series victory parade

This is poetic justice. I watched Opening Day in April, cheered them on and they won.  Two hours later, the Marathon Bombing at the Copley Square finish line happened.  If you're not from Boston, you can't understand how the two events are inextricably linked all season long. It is not just about baseball here in Boston. The Red Sox were an integral part of helping the city heal. The next home game, David Ortiz stood in the middle of Fenway and said " this is our f***ng city ! And the FCC gave him a pass ! That's how extraordinary this season has been. (See April 15, 2013 blog post.)

Check out Boston.Com for more info. Players and John Farrell are being interviewed right now before they get on to the duck boats lined up in Fenway Park which is also filled with fans.

The team, whose improbable six-game victory over the St. Louis Cardinals lifted the spirits of a region rattled by the Boston Marathon bombings, was expected to board amphibious duck boats at 10 a.m. for a 3.8-mile ride through city streets that will conclude with a splash — as the boats take a victory lap in the Charles River.
The “rolling rally” of 25 duck boats will begin at Fenway Park and pass by such landmarks as Boston Common and City Hall. It will also pass a more somber site — the place near the Marathon finish line where the twin bombs went off on April 15, killing three people and injuring more than 260.
The parade was expected to stop for a tribute at the site, but no details were available on what that would entail, a Red Sox spokesman said Friday. “It’s going to be special to all of us to go down past that finish line,” player Shane Victorino told WBZ-TV.

Some of the bombing victims were on the duck boats ! Very brave, very brave.....

It was Jonny Gomes and Jared Saltalamachhia's idea to place that BOSTON STRONG T shirt in the dugout after they won the game at Fenway and were on their way to Cleveland when they heard about the Bombing. It was in the dugout every game of the season. The rolling duck boat parade stopped at the site of the bombing in Copley Square for a special ceremony acknowledging the victims of that day. That's what makes this World Series, worst to first season different and very special.

I know Roby would be thrilled and moved by this particular celebration and world series win.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013


Jonny Gomes, 12:07 am

Fans in Boston are so exhausted today. We were all up late last night watching the Sox win the world series after being the most Unlikely team to do it. Nobody thought they would get this far. Even Dennis Eckersley, Hall of Famer, former Red Sox pitcher said "it's surreal." It really was and still is a 'magical' atmosphere here in Boston, especially as David Ortiz said, "after everything people went through here re. the Boston Marathon tragedy." He dedicated the Trophy to the people of Boston. Like John Farrell, he is a class act. 

Louise turned out to be a lucky charm. Bernice, I hope you will cut out another headline and put it on the bookcase ! Ellen, loved your energy although your allegiance is elsewhere. I am so glad the Sandler family loyally rooted for the Red Sox, for Roby......yes, I think his energy helped move things along. 

Lackey pitches a gem for win



Beantown is buzzing and has been all day. I arrived at Physical Therapy to Red Sox coverage. My P.T. is going to a sportsbar tonight near Fenway. My poor friend Joan who is visiting from California is stranded at the Hynes T stop. Four trains went by filled to capacity with Red Sox fans. I think Boston is levitating off the ground right now....and this is Before the game !

May this photo be the good luck charm for tonight  - "He had put it up when the Sox finally won their first World Series in so many years"   
Thanks for sending the photo Bernice !

Tuesday, October 29, 2013


What a game ! Bernice, it's so exciting, I enjoyed getting your comment right after the game ! The Sandler 'karma' is definitely working - we are all in ! Thinking of Roby - I like to think his energy lingers and he is rooting them on too.

From worst to first - the magic number - 1. Looking for the next win to shut down the Cards at Fenway  wednesday. Ross’ “signature moment” came with one out in the seventh inning. Xander Bogaerts singled into center field and Stephen Drew walked to put runners at first and second for Ross. Adam Wainwright tried to put Ross away with a 1-2 breaking ball, but the Boston backstop ripped an RBI double down the left field line to put the Red Sox in front 2-1. Ross and the Sox went on to secure a 3-1 victory to pull to within one win of a World Series title.

David Ross spent two months on the DL, out with a concussion ! It makes his RBI double extra sweeter. 

Read more here:

Red Sox nation needs to go to bed early tonight - we are exhausted.


Sunday, October 27, 2013


Another shocking win - Koji Uehara  picked off the guy at first base - done !

Series tied.  Gotta love Koji Uehara and Johnny Gomes - he is our Kevin Millar factor.


Obstructed view: Call sends Sox to walk-off loss

Umpires rule Middlebrooks impeded Craig following play at third base

I wonder if Roby knew about RULE 7.06 !

I watched the post game show last night. Boston is buzzing about that 'vaguely worded rule' from MLB Rules and Regs. Whoever heard of Rule 7.06 ? For more info, check out !

A lot of things happened in Game 3, but it was ultimately decided on the obstruction call.

Red Sox lose on controversial call

Red Sox lose on controversial call

Chances are you never heard of Major League Baseball’s Rule 7.06 before Saturday night. But remember this: While Game 3 of the World Series ended on an obstruction call Saturday night, that was how the Red Sox lost this bizarre, thrilling, tense, ultimately devastating game. However, it is not why they lost, writes Chad Finn.
The Red Sox lost, 5-4, to the Cardinals here last night in a way that no World Series game 
has ever ended, a frantic final play that culminated in an obstruction call on third baseman 
Will Middlebrooks, the awarding of home plate to runner Allen Craig and an ardent protest of 
a ruling that the umpires got right the first time, even if the Sox didn’t want to believe it.

“It’s an absolute crying shame that a call like this is going to decide a World Series game,” 
emotional pitcher Jake Peavy said. “It’s a joke. There’s no other way to say it. It’s a joke.”

Added manager John Farrell, “That’s a tough pill to swallow. Tough way to have a game
end, particularly of this  significance.”  (

AP/ October 27, 2013, 12:24 AM

Obstruction call gives Cards win in World Series Game 3

St. Louis Cardinals' Allen Craig gets tangled with Boston Red Sox's Will Middlebrooks during the ninth inning of Game 3 of baseball's World Series Saturday, Oct. 26, 2013, in St. Louis. / AP PHOTO/DAVID J. PHILLIP